John Green Profile by Margaret Talbot

Posted on June 20, 2014 at 8:00 am

My friend and Pre-Code movie series co-host Margaret Talbot has a thoughtful profile of The Fault in our Stars author John Green in The New Yorker.  He told her

I love the intensity teen-agers bring not just to first love but also to the first time you’re grappling with grief, at least as a sovereign being—the first time you’re taking on why people suffer and whether there’s meaning in life, and whether meaning is constructed or derived. Teen-agers feel that what you conclude about those questions is going to matter. And they’re dead right. It matters for adults, too, but we’ve almost taken too much power away from ourselves. We don’t acknowledge on a daily basis how much it matters.

Talbot is insightful not just about why teen stories appeal to Green but about why Green is so important to teenagers, in part because he has made himself so accessible.  She writes about his online chats with teens who have cancer and his responding to comments on his series of video posts about everything from public policy to geopolitical conflicts, classic literature to promoting his slogan: DFTBA — “Don’t forget to be awesome” (and evil corporations profiting from that slogan).  The article is as significant for its portrayal of the millennial generation’s experience and expectation of fan-dom as it is for its biographical details about Green.  It is reassuring to see that some analog aspects of fandom persist, even in the era of Tumblr, YouTube channels, and Twitter.

Many authors do pre-publication publicity, but Green did extra credit: he signed the entire first printing—a hundred and fifty thousand copies—which took ten weeks and necessitated physical therapy for his shoulder.

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Free This Weekend: My eBook on Movie Dads

Posted on June 13, 2014 at 5:00 am

In honor of Father’s Day, my eBook, 50 Must-See Movies: Fathers is FREE through Monday, June 16, 2014.

50 must-see fathers smallWhat do “Wall Street” and the “Star Wars” saga and, seemingly, about half the movies ever made have in common? They are about fathers. In “Wall Street,” Charlie Sheen plays the ambitious Bud, who respects the integrity of his blue-collar father, played by his real-life father, Martin Sheen. But Bud is dazzled by the money and power and energy of Gordon Gekko (Michael Douglas). The movie will up the ante with Bud’s father’s heart attack as we see him struggle between the examples and guidance of these two male role models.

In “Star Wars,” Luke (Mark Hamill) does not know until halfway through the original trilogy that (spoiler alert) the evil Darth Vader is his father. He was raised by his aunt and uncle, who are killed very early in the first film, but the father figures who are most meaningful in his life are the Jedi masters Obi-Wan Kenobi and Yoda. Like Bud in “Wall Street,” Luke must choose between the good and bad father figures. Like Luke, Harry Potter is raised by an aunt and uncle, but he finds a true father figure later. For Harry, it is headmaster Albus Dumbledore. In opposition is He Who Must Not Be Named. Like Luke, Harry has the opportunity for great power on the dark side, but he lives up to the example set for him by Dumbledore.

The first stories ever recorded are about fathers. The central human struggle to reconcile the need for a father’s approval and the need to out-do him is reflected in the “hero of a thousand faces” myths that occur in every culture. In Greek mythology, Zeus is the son of a god who swallowed his children to prevent them from besting him. Zeus, hidden by his mother, grows up to defeat his father and become the king of the gods. Ancient Greece also produced the story of Oedipus, who killed his father and married his mother, and The Odyssey, whose narrator tells us “it is a wise man who knows his own father.”

These themes continue to be reflected in contemporary storytelling, including films that explore every aspect of the relationship between fathers and their children. There are kind, understanding fathers whose guidance and example is foundation for the way their children see the world. There are cruel, withholding fathers who leave scars and pain that their children spend the rest of their lives trying to heal. There are movies that reflect the off-screen real-life father-child relationships. Martin Sheen not only played his son’s father in “Wall Street;” he played the father of his other son, Emilio Estevez, “The Way,” which was written and directed by Estevez, and which is about a father’s loss of his son. Will Smith has appeared with his son Jaden in “The Pursuit of Happyness” and “After Earth.” John Mills appeared with his daughter Hayley in “Tiger Bay,” “The Truth About Spring,” and “The Chalk Garden.” Ryan and Tatum O’Neill memorably appeared together in “Paper Moon.” Jane Fonda produced and starred in “On Golden Pond” and cast her father Henry as the estranged father of her character. Jon Voight played the father of his real-life daughter Angelina Jolie in “Tomb Raider.” And Mario Van Peebles, whose father cast him as the younger version of the character he played in “Sweet Sweetback’s Badasssss Song” made a movie about the making of that film when he grew up. It is called “Badasssss!” In the role of Melvin Van Peebles he cast himself.

Director John Huston deserves some sort of “Father’s Day” award. He directed both his father and his daughter in Oscar-winning performances, Walter Huston in “The Treasure of the Sierra Madre” and Anjelica Huston in “Prizzi’s Honor.”

Some actors known for very non-paternal roles have delivered very touching performances as fathers. Edward G. Robinson is best remembered for playing tough guys, but in “Our Vines Have Tender Grapes” he gave a beautiful performance as a farmer who loves his daughter (Margaret O’Brien) deeply. Cary Grant, known for sophisticated romance, played loving – if often frustrated — fathers in “Houseboat” and “Room for One More.” “Batman” and “Beetlejuice” star Michael Keaton was also “Mr. Mom.” Comedian Albert Brooks is a devoted father in “Finding Nemo.”

There are memorable movie fathers in comedies (“Austin Powers,” “A Christmas Story”) and dramas (“To Kill a Mockingbird,” “Boyz N the Hood”), in classics (“Gone With the Wind”), documentaries (“Chimpanzee,” “The Other F Word”), and animation (“The Lion King,” “The Incredibles”). There are great fathers (“Andy Hardy”) and terrible fathers (“The Shining”). There are fathers who take care of us (“John Q”) and fathers we have to take care of (“I Never Sang for My Father”). All of them are ways to try to understand, to reconcile, and to pay tribute to the men who, for better or worse, set our first example of how to decide who we are and what we will mean in the world.

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Interview: Bishop T.D. Jakes on His Best-Seller “Instinct”

Posted on May 29, 2014 at 8:00 am

Bishop T.D. Jakes’ new book, Instinct: The Power to Unleash Your Inborn Drive is an instant best-seller.

Combining historical, cultural, and personal examples with biblical insights, in INSTINCT Bishop Jakes outlines how to re-discover your natural aptitudes and re-claim the wisdom of your past experiences. When attuned to divinely inspired instincts, you will become in sync with the opportunities life presents and discover a fresh abundance of resources. Knowing when to close a deal, when to take a risk, and when to listen to your heart will become possible when you’re in touch with the instincts that God gave you.

Bishop Jakes talked to me about how an elephant helped him learn about the power of instinct and why it is not the same as impulse.

How did the original idea for the book came to you?

I was on a safari in South Africa after concluding speaking for a group of black billionaires.  I was invited to speak to them and one of the perks they gave me was to go on a safari and to stay out in the jungle.  I had an amazing experience when I was on the safari with a zoologist who was extremely knowledgeable about the animals on the tour.  The animal I most wanted to see was the elephant. He explained to me all about the elephants; their habitats, their mating and what have you.  But he did not know where to look for the elephant.  The Zulu who had said nothing at all finally spoke up and said, “The elephant is over there.” And when he said it, it blew me away because I realized that I was sitting between intellect and instinct. And that intellect can explain it but instincts can find it.instinct book cover

And from that time I started researching instinct and reflecting back on my own life and the life of other people.  I find that the most creative, exceptional people who have done amazing things with their lives were people who followed their instincts. While they respected the data and the information that was in their particular industry, they were not tarnished by it, and they were able to do exceptional things because went with their gut and followed their instincts and found the thing in life that they thought they were created to do.

What steps do people need to take to be open to that genuine instinct?  How do they get past the fear?

Well, you hit the nail dead on the head when you start talking about fear. I think people misunderstand fear and give it too much power and they see it as a stop sign when it should just be a yield sign in their lives.  I never found anybody who did anything, who built a corporation or raised a child who didn’t have some or an interest in doing so and I’ve been teaching people to feel the fear and do it anyway. And as it relates to finding your instinct and we have so much noise around us; television, media, the cultural media, loss of jobs, jobs, all kinds of stuff invading our space, we don’t get time to meditate, to think, to really soul search to see, “Are you living your life to the fullest? Are you doing the things that fuel you when you do them, that fire you when you do them, that motivates you when you do them?” And sometimes we’re in the middle of my lives before we get to take a breath and reflect and that’s why so many people changing careers and making decisions in the second half of their lives because they recognize that they have responded to what everybody needed them to be without really researching who they were created to be

Did you do a lot of interviews in researching the book?

I did quite a few interviews and that I was privy to, as a pastor and having done 36 years of counseling not only the 30,000 members of my church but throughout my traveling and interaction with people from politics to entertainment. And almost consistently I found that people who enjoy their jobs and enjoy their life and were the most productive, were people found careers that were in alignment with their core competencies and their core inclinations, their core instincts. And so I wrote the book with that pretty much.

And then I interviewed doctors who added to the information like how they were telling me how heart cells developed from stem cell start beating before they connect and they connect with other cells that have the same beats.  So we’re instinctive right down the cellular level of who we are. And I found all of that quite fascinating.  They work their way over to the cells that have the same rhythm.  That’s one of the same metaphors that I use to talk about our lives.  For instance I talk about the nine foot neck of the giraffe that enables him to eat from the tops of the trees.  He eats from the level of his vision.  When you have a certain worldview and a certain vision you have to eat from the level of your vision.  Turtles share the same space and also eat on the level of their views.  People will comment on your decisions from their perspective. And you can’t let their perspective stop what you’re doing.

Are there some good examples in Scripture of people acting on instinct?

Yes, I think there are couple of real good examples. One of them is when Jesus talked about the talents. One he gave five, to one he gave two and to one he gave one. And then the Bible says that he took his journey and went to a far country. And then he came back and asked them to give stewardship of what he had given them and what’s amazing is the first of all didn’t ask them to multiply what he gave, he just gave it to them.  But some of them instinctively took what he gave them and turn it into so much more and others did not.  Jesus spoke very harshly to the one who took what was given him and did not make more. And I use that to talk about how all of us have an obligation to stewardship not only to maintain what was given to us but also to multiply what was given to us.  Another good example would be the ten lepers.  Jesus told them to show them set to the priest all 10 of them obeyed what you said and they were healed as they went but one of them returned having not gotten to the priest yet and came back to say thank you and Jesus said, “Where are the nine?”  Well he told them to come back to say thank you.  This one brother reacted to his instincts and went back and told Jesus thank you and was complimented for doing so.

Let’s go back to this question of fear.  What is it that people fear, do they fear making mistake, do they fear being embarrassed? What are the fears that prevent people from tapping into their instincts?

I think a it’s a lot of things based on who we are.  For some people it’s a fear of failure, sometimes it’s a fear of rejection, sometimes it’s a fear of something new, unfamiliar.  Our intellect is formed by the things we’ve read, the things we’ve seen the things we’ve heard and how we react to them.  And all of that is based on empirical data.  But the reality is when you follow your instinct you’re often challenged to go into an area that you don’t have the support of previous experience and that’s quite a vulnerable feeling because you don’t have anything in your background that supports it. You just have an instinct and then interest in that area that is outside of your past experience and I think that’s alone is quite frightening.

How is instinct important in personal relationships?

I think is very important, I give you an illustration of three turtles who were born in the land, they actually had some land and they migrate to the ocean. I think when it comes to your personal relationships, you have to find people who migrate to the same things that you do, that have the same worldview that you do. To give a Biblical example, how can two walk together except they agree? And out of 7 billion people on the planet you’re not gonna agree with everybody but find the people who basically have your same worldview. It’s an instinctive thing.  Those who are comfortable in their own skin, not intimidated by your uniqueness — that is very important personal relationships.

Many employers have started to take the book and offer it to their staff because the stats really prove that people do the best work when they’re doing what are instinctive to them, that’s innate to them, that’s comfortable with their personality types.  Sometimes we made the mistake of having a need and forcing somebody to supply a need and they can do it but the fact that you can do something doesn’t mean that you ought to do it and it might not be the best thing for you to do that makes you the a most productive and that’s true in personal relationships as well as professional ones.

Isn’t there a difference between instinct and impulse?

Yes.  When I say instinct, I’m talking about your inclination to be in a particular environment. I’m not talking about decisions, snap judgments, quick decisions made impulsively.  The only thing they have in common with instinct is that impulses may not be well researched, they may be urges or inclination.  But when I talk about instinct am talking about your proclivity towards art or drama or science or music or that sort of thing; is not so much about buying a dress or moving to Chicago, that’s impulsive. Quick decisions to those things may be impulse and have nothing to do with instinct that all.

If you’re in a relationship with someone and  trying to explain to them what direction your instincts are taking you, what’s a good way to frame that?

If it creates conflict, I think that’s a red flag. I think that the reason that we date people in the first place is try to get a sense of their worldview and what kind of person they are. They may not necessarily be the same kind of person you are but if they’re uncomfortable with the kind of person you are, it’s is a bad thing the bend yourself out of shape just so you have a company because ultimately that’s going to get tiresome and is going to be frustrating and I think also be a failure.

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The All-of-a-Kind Family is Back!

Posted on May 23, 2014 at 8:00 am

I am very happy that one of my favorite book series is back in print, Sydney Taylor’s warm, funny All of a Kind Family stories about a turn-of-the-last century Jewish family in New York, inspired by Taylor’s own family. The title comes from the children — all girls, at least until a brother finally arrives later on in the series.

Born in 1904 on New York’s Lower East Side, Sydney Taylor was one of the first authors of children’s books centered on Jewish characters, and is especially known for the immensely popular All-of-a-Kind Family series. The Sydney Taylor Book Award is given each year by the Jewish Association of Libraries to a book for young people that authentically portrays the Jewish experience. Many thanks to Lizzie Skurnick Books for making this outstanding series available.

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Trailer: Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good Very Bad Day

Posted on May 17, 2014 at 8:00 am

Steve Carell and Jennifer Garner star in this new Disney film based on one of my favorite books by one of my favorite people. The book has already been filmed twice, once as an animated musical with songs by “Annie’s” Charles Strouse.  It looks like the whole family has a terrible, horrible, no good very bad day in this one.

Until it is released this fall, read the book and enjoy this version.

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